I had been trying to get my ex to give me a divorce for several years and I was afraid it would never happen.
It was in the spring of 2010, when I found out the divorce laws were changing in our state.
For years, Buffalo, NY and all of New York had such antiquated ideas on divorce that I wasn’t sure I could ever divorce him unless we moved out of state. I knew he would not move since Buffalo, NY was his hometown, but I was willing. I was ready to do anything I needed to get this man out of my life. In 2010, the state of New York finally came into the future and got rid of their antiquated laws pertaining to divorce. I could finally file for divorce with nothing other than a lack of breakdowns in the marriage, and we had been living apart for a year. Irreconcilable differences were now a reason for divorce. They had changed legal services in the state of New York, and I no longer wanted to move from Buffalo, NY. When our marriage was finally officially ended, I still had to consider what we were going to do with the kids. We could take care of most of the paperwork that pertained to the kids without the help of a lawyer, but we wanted to make sure they did everything properly. Like anything else, when having a marriage dissolved, we were told it would be best if we were to use a lawyer for everything involving divorce and family law.